Contacts Increase's Awareness

I have been watching and remembering my addictive behavior. Why have I eaten
12 donuts over a course of a day. Why was having intimate relations difficult?
How are these two primary drives connected? No one has modeled healthy intimacy. Communication must be person to person which families have limited knowledge. When the culture is survival oriented then there is little time to intimately relax. Unconscious panic drives addiction and those donuts are safe and quickly available. A  release from stagnating.

On the bigger scale 1 billion bottles
of coke are consumed every day, and in the U.S.A. 300 million cups of coffee are consumed every day, and I recognize my problems are shared. Every time I fill my car and review the quick junk food that is continually placed in front of me, I am tempted to get a quick fix. Human beings survive under many difficult situations: Everyday life
can co-exist with less dangerous addictions and surely coffee and coke pose no immediate threat to survival.

Denial is an invisible symptom and goes hand and hand with the famous caveat of I have no problem: smoking once was considered safe. Having an addiction can cause you to feel shame and secretive: keeping the lid on secrets can make your addiction hidden to yourself. Addictions to any of the following can be harmful: Coffee, work, liquor, legal and illegal drugs, sex, TV, and eating. My overeating is a substitute for not being able to satisfy my primary need of intimate sexual contact. Shallow breathing tightens the pressure cooker of emotions

Depression often is an underlying factor that leads to addictive behavior: the easy road
to quick release from depression is losing control which radically opens emotions; it's why addictive behavior is so prevalent. Depression blocks you from the expression of your core. Self perception needed to be hidden, to be covered by armor to protect self realization: depression became your  character and addiction your safety valve.

Music can help friends connect. Relieving depression by sharing is my goal. Music and friensd ship two important avenues that should not be forgotten.

Ain't No Cure For Love by Leonard Cohen.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cPdUkWCDmGM

Why You Wound Up Like You Are

The movement through the birth canal should actually be one of pleasure,
to the parent and the child. The expression of energy for the baby is all
encompassing; it is a rippling of energy outward. When the babies energy (movement) is blocked, the baby either takes literally days to be born instead of an hour or needs a Cesarean section. Then the baby is welcomed to the world with harsh lights, painful solutions to the eye, separation from the mother and no breastfeeding, and circumcision. Then depending  on how many insults you survived, your musculature will compress (Dr. Reich calls the hardening of muscles armor) to block the flow of energy and not to be scared to death..

Babies are instinctual lovers of pleasure, (as should adults), their energy is fluid and joyous. Dr. Reich uses the analogy of the pin sticking the amoeba. Stick the amoeba enough times and the amoeba collapses on itself and dies.
Depending on how awful your childhood was your armor, ( musculature), character will be a reflection of those insults and like the amoeba can ultimately die.

Babies are great survivors but if we soak up horrible birth practices that hardened musculature, forms the groundwork for addictive behavior.  Each insult, each separation, each physically painful experience causes repressed anger.

Pick up the baby when the baby 

cries: The baby is crying to be close or to be fed. Ultimately not responding to the babies needs causes blocked energy. Your child's addictive behavior is the anger blocked energy trying to release in complaint over their loss of pleasure, closeness, and

autonomy that was never given.

Seeing energy moving in the body as feelings.

Not wildly interactive but if you can imagine the following.
Your at the ocean and it is sunny, a perfect breeze and you are walking
along getting your feet wet. Or
you are coming out of a movie theater just seeing your favorite film. Or
you are with the love of your life. Or
you just hit the winning shot in your favorite sport.

All of these moments bring happiness and pleasure to you.
Feeling groovy as I use to say. Feeling good. What does feeling mean to you?
Please take a moment and scan your body. Do you feel anything moving to the surface of your body? If you feel the movement of energy in your body moving to the surface of your skin then your one of the few people who has escaped our culture of the walking dead.

I am the bearer of bad news. You have forgotten what it is to be alive. Oh I know we all
think and therefore I am. But that is only a small part of being alive. Oh OK big shot
What is the rest?
Ready?
Life is movement. Remember you are that from Yoga. Well guess what you are similar to
moving clouds. Not only does your heart pulse, but energy which you are actually moves within
your body. Like Walt Whitman who wrote about this breeze of energy, this sometimes
gentle movement within us is the movement of life. Your feelings are actually a type of movement in your body: like an amoeba under the microscope that pulses to the surface of its membrane, feelings also move to the surface. Literally when you fall in love it is a moving experience . At different peak moments you have also felt part
of this movement. Why don't we actually feel this movement all the time?

Each of us has our own story. The common denominator is the ceasing of the movement.
If you do not experience the movement (Dr. Reich called them streamings) you will seek addictive ways to compensate for their ceasing.